Unfortunately.. being humans.. the more we talk, the higher the chance that we're going to say something stupid, rude or thoughtless. Even armed with the best intentions, I've heard people say things to grieving friends that leave me thinking, "Wow! I can't believe they said that!",. I've since come to the possibility that they felt they needed to say something comforting and just couldn't pull it off. Points for trying. And we have a tendency to go just a little too far. Some people have pulled out all the stops and made careers out of shock and awe. That's never my goal. I shoot for cool, interesting, entertaining and.. on a good day.. thought-provoking. But I'm not such a genius that I'm immune to derailing.
It didn't escape me that, after trying to inject some temperance in the storm of outrage over Melinda, that I stepped into the mess in my own little corner. I made a post in poor taste. I wasn't trying to be insensitive. I was actually trying to be a little abstract about something else. Luckily, I only shared it with my friends and several of them knew what I was getting at. But one of them called me out. I removed the comment. It wasn't because I was being wishy-washy or caving to public opinion. It was my choice because I realized he was right. if I felt strongly about what I said, we would have had to deal with it on that level. But the truth is that I simply pushed a little too far. I wonder, had I shared it to the public at large, if someone would be boycotting my place of business or calling for my job right now. I'm grateful that I had someone with the grace to call me on it without just "unfriending" me (literally or figuratively), or calling me a #$@#$@ and saying that people like me should just die. Oh yeah.. those people are out there. Ask Melinda. It strengthened my notion that we need peacemakers on the Internet. And in real life.
As for me, I should probably apologize now. If history is correct, I'm gonna say too much or the wrong thing again.
As Wikipedia states -
Hanlon's razor is a saying that reads:
Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity.
In simpler words: some bad things happen not because of people having bad intentions, but because they did not think it through properly.
But what I really wanted to talk about was the cat.
I try to get out at lunch time and go for a walk. It's healthy and it breaks up the day. Along my walk is an animal hospital and shelter that's surrounded by tall wire fence. The other day, I was on my way back and.. outside the fence.. was a lone cat. I thought, "Is he (or she) waiting to see an inmate or something?". Maybe it's waiting at the spot where the other cats on the inside are planning on coming out during their jailbreak? Is this that cat with a warrant who's turning himself in?
Watch out for cats out there!